1 post tagged “not to say all whipping is bad”

More often than not, any decisions I make that directly involve Karin will be determined based on how happy I think the decision will make her. Sometimes, this means the end result is quite different than what I personally wanted and at those times the claim could be (and has been) made that because I am so willing to compromise my own happiness for Karin, I must be pussy-whipped.

Now, I know this assessment is grossly inaccurate, but my protestations to that effect aren’t enough to really convince anyone but myself. What I needed was to determine the differentiating factor between a guy who really is pussy-whipped and a man such as myself.

It turns out the answer is actually quite simple. It’s all in one’s motivations. Put simply:

If you do things for your lady in order to keep her from being angry, you’re pussy-whipped.

If you do things for your lady for the purpose of making her happy, you’re not pussy-whipped; you're in love.

It’s an important distinction. We’re not talking about a mere shift in point-of-view, here. Note that the first example above is selfish and the second is selfless. Sort of makes the term “pussy-whipped” seem rather reasonable: the man with his motivations so far out of whack is being emotionally flogged by his disapproving woman for his selfishness*.

Anyway, you guys out there who aren’t sure if your asshole friends are right when they call you whipped, just ask yourself this one question: do you do what you do for her to create a smile or avoid a scowl?

*There are, of course, many detailed scenarios I've purposely left out.